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Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Where Things Try to Get Complicated

It's beautiful day today. The sun is shining, and so far, the big dark clouds that hang threateningly over the sky have passed quite quickly. That's the beauty about the Scottish winds- they come in strong and things blow over quite quickly. I'm sure there's some metaphor in there somewhere.

The one thing about a good sunny day is that it's like whatever fog is in my head is suddenly swept away and I can think and feel clearly. Can one feel clearly? Maybe it's just that I'm feeling rather flat lately and whatever emotions are there have been minimized. It's not depression, it's just a temporary inability to feel motivated.

So here I am, not feeling quite as flat and trying to wrap my mind around all that is going on. As I mentioned in my last post, it's not busy in the sense of schedules, but it's the juggling act of raising a toddler. It's draining.

The business stuff is happening slowly but surely. I think not being open on the timeline I had set for myself has also contributed to my mood lately. But, I chose to cancel a meeting with one bank because I didn't believe they would be very helpful to me in the long run. I wanted someone that had something to offer a very small business. I mean, let's face it, as much as it would be nice, I'm not going to be bringing in thousands of pounds every month. Hundreds is the current benchmark so that I can supplement my husband's income. 

So I cancelled the one appointment and have set things in motion with another bank. Turns out that is complicated too since their Scottish branches are being sold to another bank (a result of legislation placed on them following the 2008 recession that is attempting to create more competition). So, to make things complicated, I likely have to open the account in an English bank and bank up here through their associated branches. Why? Because we pretty much have confirmation that in Oct of 2013 we're moving to Oxford, England when hubby's job shifts focus. I should also note that the contract (when it's drawn up) will be till 2016.

A plan. We have one!

So that means I'm starting my business here in Glasgow and then moving things to Oxford. Not necessarily difficult, just… complicated.

So that's one thing I'm trying to sort out.

Then there's my dear little girl.

I'm trying to not be worried. My mom and I talked about her speech issue recently and K went and tried to prove us wrong, but ever since then there's been no further advancements. I'm talking about words and speaking here. She has at 28 months a grand total of 3 words. Yes, 3. Mama (or some variation), Dada (also variations there) and recently she pointed to a carton of juice and demanded 'jussh!'.

That's it.

Now to her credit the girl can babble with the best of them and is very vocal. She can communicate with her body/actions quite easily and has a high degree of comprehension. She can point to parts of her body when we ask where they are (eyes, nose, mouth, hair, ears, chin…). She can shake her head no. She will drag up to the kitchen when she's hungry and point to the food she wants (and throw a tantrum if she can't have it). She will now demand to go down for a nap, even if it means she doesn't end up getting her diaper changed (that was today and it wasn't too wet, so it's fine). And in preparation for toilet training she is now starting to let us know when she does want her diaper changed.

But she doesn't use words. Even hubby is starting to be a little concerned. He was a late talker but usually there is a bit more than this by now.

On the other hand I don't want to freak out that our seemingly smart little girl has a problem. In any case, the health visitor was supposed to come back for a check-up to see how her speech was coming along. As soon as I post this, I'm calling her to make an appointment to get her take on things. It's one of those things that I'm not overly concerned about till she's three. But at that same time I don't want to leave it too long if some early intervention will make a difference.

So that's a bit of what's happening. More later… I have a phone call to make.


Mrs. Gamgee said...

Wow... so much going on!

I'm glad to hear that there is a plan for your DH's work and that there is some security there. However, it sure throws a wrench into a few things, doesn't it? Praying that the path becomes clear for you and that the finances fall into place.

As for your wee girl... like everyone has been telling me, children are all on their own timetable and they make changes out of necessity. At some point, hopefully soon, she will get tired of pointing and actually say the words. She knows them, she's just not wanting to use them yet.

Hang in there, hun! ((hugs))

areyoukiddingme said...

3 years worth of a plan - that sounds very good. I like stability - even if it's only in a few areas.

The talking...well, a big change like an international move can have some interesting effects. Maybe she'll start talking in full sentences without warning and maybe she'll need some help. But, you're on the case, so whatever she needs, you'll have ready for her. That's all you can do.